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Becoming an intergenerational church

Last Sunday we commemorated Holy Communion for the second time together at Henderson. The hall is filling up and post-service fellowship is also getting warmer. What a joyous sight it was for the people of God here in Hermon to live out Psalm 133: it is good and pleasant when brothers (and sisters) dwell in unity. We can still accommodate more in the hall, so may Heb 10:24-25 encourage the rest of us in Hermon to come back and worship so that we can be One Hermon@Henderson.

We seek to be an intergenerational church. That means we desire for many generations of Hermonites to interact, to worship God and to serve one another across the generations. Over these few weeks, we have observed the wonderful challenge of our Creche reaching its maximum capacity. God has indeed blessed us with many second and third generation Hermonites. As we seek to be good stewards of God’s gifts to Hermon, may I share a few thoughts from an article by William Boekestein, titled, “Parents, bring your children to worship”.

To all Hermonites, let us embrace that “children are never out of place in congregational worship. Since the beginning, God’s people have known that worship was an event for the whole covenant family (Ezra 10:1). Jesus welcomed children to himself, and he used them to illustrate what it means to belong to God’s kingdom (Mark 10:13–16). God expects children to be present in worship, hearing instructions, promises and encouragements written directly to them (Eph. 6:1–3; Col. 3:20)…. We must help Christians see that including children in worship is not only proper biblically, but it’s also one of the most important things we can do for them.” This means we are accepting and not irritated with the fidgeting noises of children in service. This means going out of our way to encourage and affirm young parents as they struggle each Sunday to bring their families to church.

To the young parents, may I share from the article three reasons why you should endeavour to bring your children to church. And I pray they will encourage you to keep up the weekly struggle of bringing your families to church. You are part of the process of enabling Hermon to become an intergenerational church:

“Firstly, worship gives children an early sense of spiritual belonging — children of believers aren’t outsiders. As members of Christian households, they are set apart (1 Cor. 7:14). As fellow image-bearers and recipients of divine promises (Acts 2:39), believing children are able, with God’s help, to worship him in the congregation (Matt. 21:15). Worship isn’t like an amusement park ride with strict height requirements or a university with rigorous academic benchmarks. Somehow the disciples missed this; they thought children should meet Jesus only when they were older and smarter. But Jesus wouldn’t have it: “Do not hinder them, for to such belongs the kingdom of God” (Mark 10:14).

Bring your children to join the great cloud of witnesses in worshipping the true God. Having them in church with God’s people is one of the best ways to bring this truth home to them. Even very young children in our church sing along with Psalm 1: “That man is blest who, fearing God, from sin restrains his feet, who will not stand with wicked men, who shuns the scorners’ seat.” The children can’t define all those words. But they’re learning — along with older saints — to be God-fearers, not God-scorners. They’re being catechised to live “like a tree set by the river’s side.” Simply by being included, they’re learning to consciously participate in the body of Christ.

Secondly, worship embeds essential habits in children. For those of us who grew up spending every Sunday in “big church,” some of our earliest rituals are singing psalms and hymns, listening to sermons and praying with God’s people. Children develop patterns younger than we might realise. If you doubt that, try changing some of your children’s routines; they’ll let you know!

Timothy began learning the holy Scriptures from infancy (2 Tim. 3:15). Researchers assure us that children’s bodies remember experiences from their first days. Their early participation in worship can shape them to be lifelong followers of God. Puritan William Gouge writes, “By educating children well from their infancy much labor may afterward be spared, for constant practice of virtue makes it a settled habit.”

The well-known parenting verse, Proverbs 22:6, also has implications for worship. Children who have been trained to worship will not easily forget the liturgical paths they began walking early in life. I’ve sat at the bedside of old believers who have forgotten nearly everything but their childhood memories. And yet they have joined me in singing words from Psalm 23, words they learned a lifetime ago in the congregation.

Finally, worship will introduce children to the God of glory. God promises to meet with his people in a special way as they gather for worship. The old hymn is true: in worship, “God himself is with us.” The hymn goes on to describe the proper response of worshipers: we adore him and with awe appear before him. We keep silence, prostrate with deepest reverence. We join with the angels and saints singing, “Holy, holy, holy!” Why would we not want our children present for this glorious meeting with Jesus, the mediator of the new covenant who has washed away our sins with his blood (Heb. 12:22–24)? After all, “From the lips of children and infants [God has] ordained praise” (Ps. 8:2; NIV, 1984).

Jesus quoted Psalm 8 to prove that children can sometimes worship better than adults (Matt. 21:12–17)! And while we’re each personally responsible for glorifying and enjoying God, corporate worship is a divine stimulant for offering God his well-deserved praise. With few possible exceptions, what is good for older worshippers is also good for younger ones. Including children in church isn’t easy. But it is right. And like any hard but right thing, it can yield bountiful fruit to those who have been trained by it (Heb. 12:11).”

Thank God that in Hermon we have families with biological second and third generations. Thank God too for multiple generations of spiritual families. As we each play our part by embracing other generations, may we contribute towards One Hermon@Henderson becoming a greater reality.

Adapted from William Boekestein,, 18 Oct 2022

- Ps Daniel Tan

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